This quote is perfect for this week’s blog, “If you are depressed you are living in the past – If you are anxious you are living in the future – If you are at peace you are living in the present”. We often set expectations for ourselves, which is fine if we set them where we can control the outcome. One of the best and most simple examples on setting a realistic expectation was taught to me when our son was in preschool. His amazing teacher said, “when you go somewhere with your child, always tell your child what is expected of them before you get out of the vehicle”. This is one of the best pieces of advice ever. You all have been at the store and there is a child in line causing a fuss, because they want something. You listen to the back and forth between the child and parent for a few minutes, then the parent gives in and puts the item in the cart. Our son was never given this opportunity. Before we would get out of our vehicle I would show our preschool aged son our list and say, “this is what we are buying you can look at anything you want, but if it is not on the list we are not buying it”. He knew what was expected of him and would often say, “mom can I look at the hot wheels”, I would always reply, “absolutely we can look”. I’m not saying there wasn’t a meltdown a time or two, but I would bring him back to the list as a reminder and off we would go without the hot wheel.
So as adults we cannot have unrealistic expectations put on to others. We cannot be hurt or unhappy with someone if we are not willing to talk to them about something they did or they said that is bothering us. Others are not mind readers and we cannot expect them to know why we are upset over something we have not mentioned to them. If someone has done or said something that has made you sad or upset either have a conversation with them about it or LET IT GO. Do not go into fun and joyful gatherings with any expectations other than to smile and have a joy full time with all those you are spending time with. Be mindful of your present moment, your inner soul will thank you for choosing happiness and peace over being depressed and anxious. Practice living in the moment daily, after all I am a strong believer we are all a work in progress in our lives.
Life is a Journey my Friends, make it what you want it to be!